“Let’s talk about sex, baby

Let’s talk about you and me

Let’s talk about all the good things

And the bad things that may be.”



Sex is the hottest topic no-one wants to talk about!  Well, we want to talk about Kim Kardashian’s sex life, but we definitely don’t want to talk about our own!  At least, we don’t want to talk about the specifics.  Why is that?  Is it taboo?  Is it naughty?  Is it off-limits?


At SHF, we want to break down the myth that sex is a dirty little secret…because…here’s the SURPRISE…EVERYONE is doing it!  Phew!  Glad we got that out in the open!  Now that’s not to say everyone is doing it all the time, but whether you are having sex regularly with a monogamous partner, dating several partners or just engaging in sex with yourself, adult humans are having sex on the regular…so let’s move past the stigma and make it more fun!


We have talked about our Sassy attitude of confidence in our every day life, so let’s take that to the bedroom.  What’s something that makes you feel SASSY & confident when you are enjoying sexy time?  We will be doing a deep dive into this topic, so let’s start simple and talk about what to wear to feel most sassy.

Boudoir Photos
Boudoir photos are another great way to spice things up in the bedroom!
Photo Credit: Santa Barbara Boudoir/Kacie Jean Photography



This one may seem like a no-brainer, but it’s not always the case!  Lingerie can be whatever you want it to be…just not a pair of holey-sweatpants!  LADIES…we beg of you…DO NOT WEAR HOLEY SWEATPANTS when you are seducing your partner!  That said, whether or not you want to take a trip to Victoria’s Secret or La Perla is up to you!  Lingerie can be as simple as wearing a matching bra and panties set that shows off your curves.  Or putting on a pair of fishnets under your dress when you go out for date night.  It could even be a cute crop top with some booty shorts.  The point is, when you dress sassy you feel sassy! 



Pheromones and body chemistry is hugely important in the area of attraction and sex [1].  Your natural scent will often turn your partner on.  That said, if you have a favorite fragrance that makes you feel sultry, seductive and alluring…spray some on and GO GET IT  girl!



Photo Credit: Santa Barbara Boudoir/Kacie Jean Photography
Photo Credit: Santa Barbara Boudoir/Kacie Jean Photography

This one may or may not work for you, but when you want to spice things up, a little sexy make up might be just the thing.  Think about your favorite sex scene in a movie.  She often has “sexy eyes” with dark liner, plump red lips and highlights on her cheeks.  It is not coincidence that male animals are often bright colored to attract their female mates.  We are attracted to color [2] and make up is a sassy way to get your partner’s attention and increase your confidence.

Stay tuned for more suggestions of how to make your sex life more sassy.  We want you to be living your best life–which includes having hot, sassy sex on a regular basis!  To be continued…




  1. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3987372/

  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201502/5-research-backed-reasons-we-wear-makeup