Paul and Hallie decided to dress as “Netflix & Chill” for their couples Halloween costume this year.
How often do you talk about your relationship/s with your girlfriends? Like on the regular, right? Who doesn’t? Whether you are on a run, out for a quick coffee, playing with your kids or pup at the park, inevitably when you and your ladies are together, the conversation always turns to sex. Or, possibly, the lack there of!
We recently overheard two women talking about their weekend plans and one said, “My husband and I have date night.” While the other said, “I would just be happy to ‘Netflix & Chill’ this weekend.” Kind of a funny expression that’s very current to our times, but have you ever really thought about what it means??? Depending on your generation, you may be just as confused as we were by this relatively new colloquialism, so we thought we should dive in deep to decode it for you!
Version 1: The REAL deal
Moms….we are talking to you. After a busy week, can you honestly say that you don’t want to just chill out on a Friday night? You have been working, cooking, cleaning, driving your kiddos back and forth to school and activities. You have helped with homework, done your workouts, went grocery shopping at least twice. Friday night rolls around and as much as you want to party it up like you are 25 and single…the idea of “Netflix and chill” sounds soooo good! You put on your favorite jammies, grab a glass of wine after the kids go down, and scroll through Netflix like it’s eye-candy. When you finally settle on your perfect show for the evening, you may already be half-asleep and call it quits after only 30 minutes. But that was a SUPER relaxing evening that satisfied your needs after a long week. Can you relate???
Version 2: The ASSUMPTION…but it should be real too!
For the single somethings out there…or perhaps the Millennial crowd, it seems as though “Netflix and Chill” is code for…ahem…wink, wink…. Dare we say it? Hooking up! If a guy says to a girl he meets through a friend or swipes right on Tinder, this suggestion often leads to intimate relations…OK OK…let’s just call it what it is…sex! Not so complicated, right?
When you are an In Demand Woman married women, you might be thinking that while Version 2 sounds awesome and carefree, Version 1 is the only option when you are working your ass off in all aspects of your life day in and day out. However, just like we all know we need to exercise regularly to feel good physically and eat well regularly to fuel our bodies, having intimacy with your partner on a regular basis is EXTREMELY important! If you want your relationship to survive, you need to take some cues from your younger self, aka Millennial Friends, and make the R-rated Netflix & Chill option a priority. We promise you that it is WAY more fun and WAY less expensive than spending an hour lying on a therapists couch…
So when next weekend rolls around, consider practicing both versions of “Netflix and Chill”. Your inner self and your partner will both thank you!
