This is a no-holds-barred guide to bring you some perspective and insight when it comes to sex! We are not talking about porn or anything particularly NSFW, but we want to shed some light on ways to make your sex life SASSY, great and abundant!
Once you’ve implemented the tips and tricks from Part 1 in this series, it’s time to get into some of the more nitty-gritty. We are talking about LUBE. Yes, you read that right…LUBE! Right here and now we are unveiling the secrets, pulling back the curtain on its mysterious powers and dismissing any notion of shame you may have associated with this amazing tool.
NOT ALL BODIES ARE THE SAME…AND THAT’S TOTALLY NORMAL!
When you are engaging in sexual activity…intercourse or otherwise, it is often helpful if you have some lubrication to assist with any skin-on-skin contact (hands, genitals, mouths, etc.). Let’s start by acknowledging the fact that as a woman, your body produces its own lubrication in different amounts at different times! Some factors that can affect how “wet” you are include hormones/where you are in your cycle, stress-level, age, physical health, etc.  Beyond that, women in general, produce different amounts of vaginal fluids depending on the woman.
Knowing that your body is going to change day-by-day or week-by-week should help you remove any preconceived ideas that using external lubrication is negative in any way.
IT JUST FEELS BETTER
When you are more lubricated, the sensations from sexual touching just feel better! If you are being touched, or touching yourself, and your skin is dry…well, let’s just say it’s not very pleasurable. By applying a light (or heavy!) amount of lube, you will enjoy the sensations that much faster, resulting in increased sexual pleasure.
OK, SO WHAT KIND OF LUBE???
When it comes to intimate products, the choices are endless and it mostly depends on your preference/what feels most comfortable for you. We will cover specific product reviews in another article, but for this starting point, we will talk about them generically:
Beware! Certain ingredients are NOT recommended for vaginal lubricants ! Ones to look out for: glycerin, parabens, petroleum jelly, propylene glycol, nonoxynol-9, chlorhexidine gluconate
Saliva–this is the most natural lubrication there is! Whether it’s your own or your partner’s, saliva can be a great lubricator. That said, it can also be limited, depending on many of the factors listed above.
Water-based Lube–Water based lube has many benefits. If you have sensitive skin, this might be a better option for you. Water-based products also wash off easier, don’t stain sheets or clothing and can be used with most intimate toys (they won’t break down the silicon materials many toys are made with). The downside to water-based lube is that it is not as thick and you may have to use more of it to get the desired effect. Also, it doesn’t work well in showers, baths or hot tubs…water washes off water!
Silicone-based Lube–Silicone-based lube comes in many varieties and can offer a lot of coverage with just a little bit of product. It is great for use in water (shower, baths, hot tubs) and a little goes a long way in terms of not needing to reapply often throughout your intimate session. The biggest downside to silicone-based lube is that it won’t work with most intimate toys because it can break down the materials they are made with.
Natural Oils–Coconut oil is probably the most commonly used natural oil used for lubrication. This is relatively inexpensive, easy to find at most grocery stores and you can find it in organic options if you prefer! If you don’t like the smell of coconut oil, this might not work for you. Also, be aware that coconut oil can go bad after a certain amount of time, so make sure to check expiration dates! There are also some products on the market made with coconut oil if you search for them. An important note about coconut oil is that it is generally NOT recommended for use with condoms as it can break down the latex. Make sure to always check all condom packaging before deciding on what type of lube will work with that particular brand/material!
We hope this helps uncover some of the mystery and stigma behind using lube when you are getting your sexy-time on. Sex should be a fun and pleasurable experience. Our feeling is that if there are products out there to make it more fun, pleasurable and SASSY then why not use them???